Motivational Monday -Let your confidence grow!

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If you guys follow me on my social media platforms then you’ll know that last week and in fact this year so far has been the best of my life, I’ve not only learned so much about myself but also a lot about other people and the world around me. I’ve been incredibly blessed to have had so many amazing opportunities already in 2016, that are getting me ever so closer to my dreams of making a difference in this world.

One thing that has shone through since this whole experience started and has been lovely to hear from a personal point of view, is the huge amount of people saying how confident I am.Now for me and my family that is such a crazy thing to hear because anybody who knows me well, will tell you how confidence is something I’ve struggled with my whole life. Confidence or lack of it played a massive part in my life growing up from school to my home life, my lack of confidence influenced it all. I was always convinced that confidence must be something you’re either born with or you aren’t. My parents always used to say ‘Just keep believing and it’ll improve’ but it always seemed like no matter how much I tried to ‘act’ confident I’d end up being a nervous wreck and have to leave whatever I was doing, it honestly became so bad and really began to affect my social life, at one point I just didn’t leave the house for weeks at a time for fear of someone talking too me.

Over time though my confidence has definitely improved so much so in fact that this week I did a live interview on my local ITV News, talking about my Fixers film. If someone would’ve said to my 15 year old self that I’d be giving an interview on Tv then I would’ve never believed them but I’ve been trying hard lately to step out of my comfort zone and do more things that scare me, in order to increase my confidence. I found a quote today that I think summed up confidence perfectly ‘Confidence is like a muscle : The more you use it, The stronger it gets!’

That’s why I’m writing this post for all the people out there who like me do or have struggled with confidence, I know at times it feels like it won’t improve but I want to give you all hope and let you know that none of us are born with bags of confidence I’m sure even big stars like Beyonce have or still do suffer with confidence issues but one thing I’ve honestly learned is that it can and will get better. Just keep trying, keep stepping out of your comfort zone, pushing yourself and you’ll soon see a confidence shine through in you that you never thought possible..YOU are capable of amazing things, just believe in yourself! ❤

Motivational Monday – Positivity only!

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The title of this post is probably slightly misleading as it says positivity only, I don’t realistically for one minute think that any of us can go through life and be 100% sunshine and rainbows. We live in such a face paced world nowadays that it’s so easy to get dragged down by the daily grind of things, weather that be smaller issues like having a bad hair/make up day, getting up late or bigger things e.g work, bills or family struggles having a bad day from time to time is inevitable.

The truth is though that no matter how many struggles life throws at us and how hard it gets, only you are in control of your own happiness. Everyday when we wake up we have a choice weather to see the positives or focus on our problems and be negative, there is a quote that I love and it goes ‘Positive mind, Positive vibes, Positive life!’. Both good or bad vibes are infectious and I don’t know about you guys but I’d rather radiate and spread love and good vibes than be a negative person.

You guys will know from previous posts that I have suffered from depression for a huge part of my life so I completely understand that it’s not always easy but recently I’ve been trying to live by this quote. There are so many beautiful in this world that we so often overlook weather that be how beautiful the sunset is, how cute your baby niece/nephew are when they smile or how pretty the scenery around us is . I’ve truly began to realise now that you can’t live a positive and happy life if you keep being focused on the negatives or surround yourself with negative people. So if you have people around you who thrive off negativity you should lose them, if you see something you don’t like online just keep scrolling and when you wake up every morning promise yourself that you will try to see the beautiful positivity in that day.

You’re all beautiful, special and talented people who deserve the most positive, happy and amazing life so go out and spread that positivity wherever possible because life is too short to be negative or hurtful.

Motivational Monday – Love yourself!

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Any of you guys who follow me on any of my social media will know how much I love a ‘selfie’ almost every other picture on my Instagram or Facebook is a posing picture of myself. Sadly though it seems that there are certain people that have to pass judgement or leave a ‘Bitchy’ comment on absolutely everything, I get told on a regular basis that “I’m so vain” or “Wow you love yourself”. Now I can’t lie there was a time that if someone would make a nasty comment about my pictures then I’d take them down or get really upset but as time passes it really doesn’t faze me.

I’m not ashamed to admit that I’m not the kind of girl who does my make up/hair everyday, most days I can be found slobbing around in my pj’s looking like an absolute mess. On the days when I do wear make up or make an effort then like I’m sure a lot of people do I take about 1000 ‘selfies’ and plaster them everywhere I possibly can. So last week when I was filming with Fixers and I thought I looked pretty, I uploaded a picture and shortly after I received such a lovely message via Facebook that said ‘Oh my god you love yourself don’t you? Just stop!’

If this would of happened a year or so back then I would’ve felt horrible and automatically felt the need to blindly defend myself but this time my reply was ‘Yes I do, thank you!’ because the thing these people who throw comment don’t realise is, like a lot of people I’ve spent a huge chunk of my life wishing I could change myself weather that be my disability, my scars or my stretch marks, now though after years of disliking myself  I genuinely do love myself not in a I’m better than anyone else or I’m Liverpool’s best looking women kind of way but I honestly am learning to love who I am, my flaws and everything I stand for and why shouldn’t I, Why shouldn’t we all?

It’s actually so sad that we live in a world where people seem to try and make themselves feel better by being hurtful towards others and can’t stand it when they see someone who’s confident or happy. why are we made to feel bad because we’re happy with ourselves? We seem to be told at every turn how we should look or act weather that be lose weight, gain weight, change your hair, cover your scars or stretch marks but why is it seen as so bad to just love who we are? flaws and all. We should love every last bit of ourselves no matter what shape or size we are, no matter how many scars or stretch marks we have. Learning to love yourself both inside and out is a beautiful thing so the next time you think you look fierce and you want to upload 900 ‘selfies’ then do it you gorgeous people, do it with pride because you’re beautiful both inside and out! ❤

 

Motivational Monday – You can make a difference!

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Hey guys, you’ll know from previous posts and if you follow me on other social media platforms that I absolutely love a quote! I’m all about positivity and try to motive people whenever I can so with that being said I’ve decided that I’m going to start my ‘Motivational Monday’ posts again.

So my first Motivational Monday post of this year will be one of loveliest quotes I read in 2015 ‘The ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones that do!’ I found this quote on one of the most positive days I’ve had in ages (I’ll explain more in my next post) this quote really made me smile!  Growing up whenever I was asked what I wanted to do my answer would be ‘I just want to help people’.  I know that to some people this probably sounds cheesy but it’s something that I truly mean’t. I’m the type of person that no matter what I’ve always said money and materialistic things wouldn’t make me happy but if I could look back at my life at the age of 80 and say I made even a small difference to the world then I’d be truly happy.

I can’t lie and say I’ve always been a super positive person because I definitely haven’t, when I was younger and people would laugh when I’d say “I want to change the world” I began to believe that they were right because I mean how could little me change the world? The older I get though the more I’m beginning to realise that everything happens for a reason and even the hardest of situations/life struggles can be turned into positives, which is a huge part of the reason why I started this blog. I wanted to turn my journey with Cerebral Palsy and depression into a positive by helping others and inspiring them to go out and chase their dreams whatever they might face in life.

Over the last few years since starting seemenotcp and speaking with lots of other amazing people in the blogging community I’ve realised that my once crazy thought of changing the world and changing lives can become a reality, not only for me but for you guys too!

So guys please believe me when I say no matter who you are or what life struggles you’ve faced. YOU can make a difference and YOU can change the world! Don’t let anybody ever make you feel like you can’t achieve incredible things in life! ❤

Motivational Monday – Live in the moment!

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We live in such a fast paced world it’s no surprise that we all seem to be constantly busy with one thing or another,  so many deadlines, meetings to attend or chores to get done that all mean it’s so easy to get caught up in what we need to next week,  next month or even next year that we forget about what is happening in the here and now.

I’ll have to admit though as I’m writing this post I’m realising that I’m actually one of the worst people ever for doing this. I get so caught up in fretting over the past or worrying about what the future has in store for me, that I forget with each moment spent with pointless, irrational worries I am losing precious moments in life that are happening right now.

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It’s funny though because the older I get the more I realise that tomorrow isn’t promised, so what am I really worrying about? Surely if tomorrow never came the mistakes I’ve made in the past or what i’ll be doing in 10 years would not even be entering my head. The things/people that are making me smile or laugh right now would be the memories I’d want to grab hold of. I’m not at all saying that we should all go off now and never have another worry about the past or even our futures but I know that from now on, I will make more of an effort to stop, look, listen and take in all the beautiful things that are happening right here in front of me!

Please guys cherish the precious moments and live right here in the NOW!

Motivational Monday – FEAR Isn’t real!

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 It doesn’t matter who you are, where you’re from or what you have,  sadly fear is something no one gets away from. So weather you are a 70 year old man who has experienced almost everything in life or a young child just starting out in life, we all fear something.

Fear comes in all shapes and sizes ranging from the smaller more rational fears e.g starting a new job or meeting new people or if you’re like me you may have more unusual fears.  One of my fears is water and it’s something I’ve been scared of since I was younger,  I’m not scared of water as in out of the tap but more the sea or a river type of water.

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I’m the type of person who seems to be stupidly scared of a lot of things e.g creepy crawlies, meeting new people or the unknown, you name it and I’m in some way scared of it but earlier this week I stumbled across the above quotes and they made a lot of sense and made something click with me.

I’m not sitting here now thinking that after reading these quotes we’ll all no longer have fears because we will probably always fear certain things but the next time you feel scared or fearful of something just ask yourself ‘is this False Evidence Appearing Real?’

Motivational Monday – FEAR isn’t real!

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 It doesn’t matter who you are, where you’re from or what you have,  sadly fear is something no one gets away from. So weather you are a 70 year old man who has experienced almost everything in life or a young child just starting out in life, we all fear something.

Fear comes in all shapes and sizes ranging from the smaller more rational fears e.g starting a new job or meeting new people or if you’re like me you may have more unusual fears.  One of my fears is water and it’s something I’ve been scared of since I was younger,  I’m not scared of water as in out of the tap but more the sea or a river type of water.

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I’m the type of person who seems to be stupidly scared of a lot of things e.g creepy crawlies, meeting new people or the unknown, you name it and I’m in some way scared of it but earlier this week I stumbled across the above quotes and they made a lot of sense and made something click with me.

I’m not sitting here now thinking that after reading these quotes we’ll all no longer have fears because we will probably always fear certain things but the next time you feel scared or fearful of something just ask yourself ‘is this False Evidence Appearing Real?’

Motivational Monday – is what you are doing today getting you closer to what you want tomorrow?

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 In such a fast paced world of the media, jobs, relationships and just life in general it’s so easy to get caught up in life and just plodding on, doing the same boring, meaningless tasks everyday without even realising that life is passing you by.

We’re all filled with hopes and dreams for our futures weather they be something small like a nice family holiday or if you are anything like me something a bit more dramatic like planning on changing the world but sadly following our dreams isn’t always easy as we normally have a huge list of them tasks everyone wishes they didn’t have to do but life would be in chaos without them e.g cleaning the house, food shop or working every hour to pay your bills.

So with the things I have mentioned above It’s so easy to get caught up and sort of forget your dreams, when I was in the deepest parts of my depression I was so stressed by life & hated the fact that everyday life was just passing me by. As I’m an all or nothing type of girl I sort of felt that I’d let myself down as I was 25 and still wasn’t exactly where I wanted too be.

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Then one day I stumbled across this amazing quote..’Are you doing something today that will get you closer to tomorrow’s dream?’ as cheesy as this sounds this quote really changed my outlook and helped me realise that although I can’t make all my dreams happen in one day, I can make sure I get up everyday and do at least one small thing that will get me that little bit closer to my end dream, weather that be making a phone call, looking online, making notes or just simply getting up and facing the day ahead with a smile. So even if it’s something so small that may not seem important make sure that you do something each day that your future self will thank you for!

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Motivational Monday – What is happiness?

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‘Happiness begins with you’

What is happiness and how do we achieve it? A question we are all left asking more than once throughout life but the truth is who knows, what makes you happy may not be what I see as happiness, happiness will vary from person to person.

For some people happiness is found in materialistic things and possession’s weather that be having lots of money, a new car, a new wardrobe or the latest designer handbag but the truth is while all these things are fabulous and will definitely leave a smile on your face for a while, will they really bring you true happiness?

A lot of us spend our lives in the pursuit of happiness going out shopping, drinking, holidays or buying extravagant things but I truly believe that your happiness begins at home with YOU!  I mean sure these things will give you a burst of happiness for a day, a week or maybe even a month but if someone was to take all that away and you were just left alone would YOU be truly happy?

i believe that happiness isn’t something you have to search for or chase it is something that can be found all around us in so many different ways weather that be in spending time with loved ones, a pretty view, having a nice cuppa, watching your favourite film and so much more.

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Life is a beautiful thing that could bring us so much joy and happiness everyday if we just stop, take a step back and appreciate our lives for what they are. Stop looking for everything too be perfect  and start seeing the perfect in everything!

Motivational Monday – dreams have no expiery date!

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Something someone wrote on a social media site a few days ago really got me thinking and I had to write this motivational Monday based on what had been said, this lady had said ‘All my friends are off persuing fantastic careers and I’m just stuck here but now I’m in my late 20s I’m too old too follow my dreams’ I dont know about you guys but I’ve definatly felt the same way at times, that life is passing me by! Just recently though I’m starting too realise that it’s never too late!

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In life we compare ourselves to others far too much and I strongly believe that is a big part of our problems when it comes to loving ourselves and our lives, everyone of us is different and thats what makes us special!

Just because you aren’t at university by 19, graduating by 23 and a lawyer by 25 it doesn’t mean that you should just give up and settle for anything less than you deserve. Your lifes journey can begin at any age and it can be the most amazing, special and exciting journey you ever embark on! Who says lifes achievements have to be done by a certain time? Who puts an expiry date on your dreams?

The answer is only… You! 

So forget about your age because it is nothing more than a number, you deserve to live the life you’ve always dreamed of weather you’re 16 or 60!

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You should never stop dreaming and never stop chasing your dreams because you deserve a life you love regardless of your age..It’s never too late!
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